Tips for Toasts

A Holiday Guide

Cheers!” A raising of drinks, a clinking of glasses, and the warm feeling of happiness. Toasts represent a longstanding tradition of bringing people together. For many, the COVID-19 pandemic has left a poignant feeling of absence. The coming holidays may be the first time in a while since some families and friends have been together, so, even if there is not a standing tradition of toasting, this year may be a good time to begin one.

Having taught public speaking classes for over a decade now, I recognize that toasting might seem nerve-racking at first blush. Even so, taking courage to give a toast might provide timely inspiration to rebuild social connections. After all, breaking bread together is a form of communication. A short speech reminding everyone of the good that they have in common may be just the right introduction or capstone to a family feast.

TIPS:

Formality: Toasts with our families do not need to be especially formal. Speaking from the heart is often highly valued. At the same time, having a little preparation can help us feel confident. There is no need to memorize a presentation word-for-word, but having a few main points planned can help the speaker stay on target.

Content: As a part of this brief planning, it may be helpful to think of a personal story for the toast. Sharing personal narratives conveys a sense of vulnerability and sincerity. It gives a “specialness” to the occasion, rather than leaving your family feeling like they heard something generic.

Delivery: When the time comes for you to actually deliver the toast, remember to breathe. Plan lines on which to pause, especially if you are nervous about the toast. Don’t worry too much about looking nervous, though — it can play into that notion of vulnerability and sincerity!

Tone: Finally, family toasts should be brief and focus on positivity. Toasts are simply an opportunity to express well wishes to others. There is no need to be the Shakespeare of speaking. Brief messages celebrating togetherness will be welcome and appreciated